Aspie Family
Practical Help for Autistic Parents and Partners
Autistic Adults
You Have Unique Needs
You have unique wiring that means that you have unique needs. But most people don’t recognize those needs unless you fit their mental picture of what someone with autism looks like (usually a white male child). So it can be easy to start believing that instead of having unique wiring that you’re just broken or wrong or lazy. But you aren’t! You are a wonderful human being who deserves to have a wonderful life that suits you.
Our goal is that every person be able to find their best life regardless of their wiring. It can be a little easier to find what that best life is when you’re in the majority. You need to hunt a little harder, but hopefully we can make it a little easier now that you’re here. Welcome!
You Matter, We See You
Because autism is invisible, the unique struggles of an adult with autism are often invisible also–this means that friends and family don’t support you the way they would if you needed extra support because you were working really long hours.
Because you have different needs, your needs are likely not being met. It’s common to start to believe that you don’t matter. Many adults give up on themselves. But you don’t have to–the first step is realizing and then doing something different.
If you have children, you may have been told that you can’t be a good parent because of your autism. This is not true! But kids are demanding and overwhelming and because autism and ADHD are genetic, there’s a good chance that your kids have their own needs as well.
You Have Unique Needs
Posts Just for You
- Monster Shirts for Our Marriage
How does a monster shirt end a relationship-long struggle? With good design. - 2020 Like a Marathoner
Knowing you’re in a marathon doesn’t just affect your pace. Your mindset, goals, and self care has to change too. - Neurodiversity 101
Many people (even people in neurodiverse families) have never heard of neurodiversity. So we’re starting with a mini-course on neurodiversity. You can help change the world by forwarding this to friends and family so that everyone can learn about the beautiful diversity of brain wiring in our world! - Not a Parent? You’re in good company
There are a lot of benefits of childlessness. Regardless of whether or not you have kids, you are welcome here! - Order in Chaos: Stop Forgetting Medication Doses
Having trouble remembering meds? We’ve got ideas! - How Doctors Think About Medication
Rather than being “for” or “against” medication, let’s discuss a more rational mindset. - A Simple Technique for Dealing with Complaining
We get TOTALLY honest about our arguing…and what helps! - The myth of the sensory kid
Everyone has sensory needs and deserves a sensory menu. - Focus on Your Goal Rather Than Being Right
Do you find yourself locked in silly arguments about unimportant issues that lead to intense arguments? Here’s a method to end the stand off. - Understanding People Who Struggle With Stuff
Before tackling the stuff, it’s important to check in on how normal it is to keep things. - Part of Me Wants to Scream: Using Parts to Acknowledge the Complexity of Humans
Talking about your “Parts” is a way of describing the mixed ways you feel or react to a situation. - That Time They Found a Rat in the Chili: How to Deal with Difficult People
Using the SOCO technique to deal with difficult situations - How to deal with Stuff: a step by step method
Subscribe to find out when this massive post is available. - Autism Spectrum Quotient: An #ActuallyAutistic Response
Have you taking an autism quiz or autism test online? Did you have some issues with it? We did too! - Extreme Minimalists are Missing Out–Or Relying on the People They are Criticizing
We find many of the minimalist rules to be anything from silly to damaging. - Parenting With Autism During the Pandemic
Struggling? Me too. Here’s what to do. - Protecting Your Loved One’s Privacy vs Getting the Support You Need
I think one of the hardest parts of autism is that everyone involved needs extra support but it’s often hard to explain the need without disclosing private (and potentially embarrassing) information. - Am I autistic?
It’s something a lot of people wonder about but don’t want to say outloud.